Becoming invisible without noticing
“It’s queer how gradually I’ve become invisible.”
That line from one of the more self-reflective Pet Shop Boys
I wanted to stand out. Now I don’t.
It’s been almost four years since I came out, but less than a year since I went on hormones.
The Look: Standing out or sinking in?
There’s a certain tribalism about how most people behave. Generally, we want to identify with groups. That’s one
Passing Moments: I got bathroom-policed... just not how I imagined I would
I know the trans bathroom debate is the most boring debate in any news media right now. It’s also
Vibe Check: The price of authenticity
In an attempt to move this newsletter forward, I'm trying some new, more personal, formats. These will be
Guardians of *what*? Why is the UK media so transphobic?
Why is the media in the UK so stacked against the cause of trans rights? Why do anti-trans or ‘gender-critical’
The draining agony of “show, don’t tell”
It’s not quite “stealth”, because there’s nothing stealthy about it, but I need more.
I read this thread
“See you at the next protest!” Making LGBTQ+ friends away from events
Making friends is hard for anyone, especially for trans people. Why is this so, and what can we do?
I
"I hope you dance": how internalised transphobia held me back, & what now?
I realised recently how many friendships and collaborations I'd let lapse because of transitioning. Now I want to
Staying safe & keeping calm if a friend or family member is radicalised against you
How to cope with sudden change in a relationship you’d valued, and how to know if you can rescue
